Hope you find this kind of love in your life

sheryl · PJNet Starter Joined: Apr 23, 2008 Posts: 51

I have a friend who is falling in love. She honestly claims the sky is
bluer. Mozart moves her to tears. She has lost 15 pounds and looks like
a cover girl. "I am young again!" she shouts exuberantly.
As my friend raves on about her new love, I've taken a good look at my old one. My husband of almost 20 years, Dave, has gained 35 pounds. Once a marathon runner, he now runs only down hospital halls. His hairline is receding and his body shows signs of long working hours and too many candy bars. Yet he can still give me a certain look across a restaurant table and I want to ask for the check and head home. When my friend asked me "What will make this love last?" I ran through all the obvious reasons:

commitment,
shared interests,
unselfishness,
physical attraction, and
communication.

Yet there's more. We still have fun. Spontaneous good times. Yesterday,
after slipping the rubber band off the rolled newspaper, Dave flipped
it playfully at me: this led to an all-out war. Last Saturday at the
grocery, we split the list and raced each other to see who could make itto the checkout first. Even washing dishes can be a blast. We enjoy simply being together.
And there are surprises.
One time I came home to find a note on the front door that led me to another note, then another, until I reached the walk-in closet. I opened the door to find Dave holding a "pot of gold" (my cooking kettle) and the "treasure" of a gift package. Sometimes I leave him notes on the mirror and little presents under his pillow.
There is understanding.

I understand why he must go to mamak with the guys to watch football. And he understands why, once a year, I must get away from the house, the kids - and even him - to meet my sisters or friends for a few days of nonstop talking and laughing.

There is sharing.
Not only do we share household worries and parental burdens - we also share ideas. Dave came home from a convention last month and presented me with a thick historical novel. Though he prefers thrillers andscience fiction, he had read the novel on the plane. He touched my heart when he explained it was because he wanted to be able to exchange ideas about the book after I'd read it.
There is forgiveness.
When I'm embarrassingly loud and crazy at parties, Dave forgives me since i Am always that. When he confessed losing some of our savings in the stock market, I gave him a hug and said, "It's okay. It's only money."

There is sensitivity.
Last week he walked through the door with that look that tells me it's been a tough day. After he spent some time with the kids, I asked him what happened. He told me about a 60-year old woman that had a stroke. He wept as he recalled the woman's husband standing beside her bed,caressing her hand. How was he going to tell this husband of 40 years that his wife would probably never recover? I shed a few tears myself. Because of the medical crisis. Because there were still people who have been married 40 years. Because my husband is still moved and concerned after years of hospital rooms and dying patients.

There is faith.
Last Tuesday a friend came over and confessed her fear that her husband > is losing his courageous battle with cancer. On Wednesday I went to lunch ith a ! friend who is struggling to reshape her life after divorce. On Thursday a neighbor called to talk about the frightening effects of Alzheimer's disease on her father-in-law's personality. On Friday a childhood friend called long-distance to tell me her father had died. I hung up the phone and thought, This is too much heartache for one week. Through my tears, as I went out to run some errands, I noticed the boisterous orange blossoms of the gladiolus outside my window. I heard the delighted laughter of my son and his friend as they played. I caught sight of a wedding party emerging from a neighbor's ouse. The bride, dressed in satin and lace, tossed her bouquet to her cheering friends. That night, I told my husband about these events. We helped each other acknowledge the cycles of life and t hat the joys counter the sorrows. It was enough to keep us going. Finally, there is knowing. I know Dave will throw his laundry just shy of the hamper every night; he'll be late to most appointments and eat the last chocolate in the box. He knows that I sleep with a pillow over my head;
I guess our love lasts because it is comfortable. No, the sky is not
bluer: it's just a familiar hue. We don't feel particularly young: we've
experienced too much that has contributed to our growth and wisdom,
taking its toll on our bodies, and created our memories. I hope we've got
what it takes to make our love last. As a bride, I had Dave's wedding band
engraved with Robert Browning's line "Grow old with me!"

We're following those instructions. "If anything is real, the heart will
make it plain." There are some people who meet that somebody that they
can never stop loving, no matter how hard they try. I wouldn't expect you
to understand that, or even believe it, but trust me, there are some love
that don't go away. And maybe that makes them crazy, but we should all be blessed to end up with that somebody who has a little of that insanity.

Somebody who never lets go. Somebody who cherishes you forever.
Hope you find this kind of love in your life.

ws- · PJNet Starter Joined: Jul 24, 2005 Posts: 63 Location: PJ

cool article abt love Smile

but how many ppl really find this kind of love??
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CrIsIs_palace · Posted: Fri Jun 13, 2008 1:12 am Post subject: comment

hi there...

u may can get that wonderfull love. maybe u can be non sleep for years and years and make ur self confident that he/she wont be else than great love.. but i had it trust me .. dont trust the feeling it could be used by others . i donnu yet wt the right thing to do .. bcz u should make ur feeling comes up upon her/him....defficalt to belive how any thing can just change wts the correct treating but i think its bcz some of specail situation that makes thats happends like being far away from ur partner get buzy of him/her dont feel her/him well any more and that cozed by sercumastances .... then u shouldnt change ur how to treat each other even the next one has to change his life style ... thx

SandraGibbs · PJNet Newbie Joined: Jun 27, 2008 Posts: 2

I also hope so that i will get such love in my life.

CrIsIs_palace · Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 3:06 pm Post subject:

Everyone can get his /her happiness if they were believing on both .. love can change everything if there s the beleive on the other .. beside there r lots of things can enhance the love expeirment in this life .. hope all ur wishes ll be true ..