relationship prob

truman22 · PJNet Newbie Joined: Jun 20, 2008 Posts: 6

i need some help. and another person's opinion/point of view

im in this relationship with my bf (D). more than a year and a half. i really do love him very much.

we meet many years ago at a function. and he fell for me then. but at that time i was in a relationship. but 2 years later the rship ended. i started falling for D after that because he used to keep me company, be with me and give me a lot of love. soon after, we got into the relationship. it was ok for the 1st 4 months. he seemed very into me and i was really happy.
that time, i was renting a room while in college. he lived with his family on 5 mins away.
after 4 months, he didnt come see me so often and said he had a lot of work in college. 1 or 2 months later. i found out that sometimes he had lied to me about having work. instead he was with friends. but when he did come see me during those times, he was still quite loving.
when i found out about his lies, i was upset and i confronted him wanting to end the relationship. he begged me not to leave and he was in tears. i was adamant and told him that if he changes i MIGHT give him a chance. he did change. but soon after, i found out that he kissed another girl about 2 months into our relationship. she's his friend and they were both really drunk. but he backed away after he realised what he was doing. but i know it never happened and it was a mistake
currently he's studying in a different country. but i know for a fact that now he has really changed and does not lie to me anymore. we do have small problems occasionally but i get worked up. he's the patient one and he always calms the situation trying to change to make things better
the thing is, im still bothered by the old events that happened and sometimes vent out the anger for that during our fights.

dont know what to do Crying or Very sad

please advice

kennteo · PJNet Junior Joined: Nov 09, 2006 Posts: 334

to take it EZ is not EZ ... but better take it EZ if you love him.

past is past.

kenn

lovepark · Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 1:44 pm Post subject:

be together is to make thing out.. and is not finding the problem to make thing worst.
to make the relationship better and not make the relationship end.
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shirley_truyi · PJNet Junior Joined: Mar 03, 2008 Posts: 351

u cant change the past but u can alwiz change the future.Watever happen already a past event there's no point bringin it back to ur present days.it will only ruin ur future with him.

Alwiz remember how to fight fairly and argue only in the context of tat issue itself dun bring back old things to present.He edi changed to better wat else u expect. u wan him to create a time machine to undo his past???

u should be glad he changed to be better. Not all so lucky as u to have improvement in a relationship.

beechuen · PJNet Starter Joined: Feb 11, 2008 Posts: 142

Not much advices and opinion can give to u...but can give u support here....Dun think2much..cheer up and happy always. Ok? I think if both of u love each other, the relationship still be there....My friends sister with her bf already almost 10years relationship....currently, her bf go2Macau working...around 2year le....She still can maintain their relationship good...and planning2marry...They always chat thru MSN.........Just do somethg2maintain ur relationship lo

bolui · PJNet Starter Joined: Oct 01, 2007 Posts: 28

If the person can betray you today, there is possibility that he will betray you in the future.

The decision is on you, we can only give you the advice

MIHARU · PJNet Starter Joined: Jan 12, 2008 Posts: 118

asandrey · Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 3:15 am Post subject:

if the person is treating u good, no matter how long or how far u will still wait for each other or missed by each others.. But if the one who r not then i doubt no point n not worth it for u to wait or love lo..Am I right?

Based to truman22 case,since u say ur bf have change alot,then why dun u give him a chance le..yday still remain in a fanstasy world,but yday is still yday.. this is a past tense,we hafta look forward to future,this is present tense..dun always keep thinking bout how he treat u bad or anything hurt u.. This will make u feel more suffer n unease.. just let it be,make urself and others be happy in ur entired of life..Dun keep on thinking bout past..Since he could change alots because of u then why can't u try to to change ur own mind in thinking something good bout him le right?..maybe this will make u feel more happier instead of being sad always..

this is just my little point of view la.. no offense at all..