A Crush? What Should I Do? T_T

fionawee · PJNet Newbie Joined: Aug 14, 2009 Posts: 1

Hie guys and gals. I need your help and advice! Question

I met a guy during my short semester. I found him to be very interesting and cute. He always sat few rows away behind me in the lecture hall.

Sometimes, I did catch him looking at me. I started observing him since he sat in front of me few weeks ago. At times, we bumped into each other in the campus too.

And hell, one day I was late for the class. Out of no choice, I had to sit at somewhere far away from my gang. I didnt realize that he was just beside me, having his mask to be on (H1N1 is killing wtf). When I peeped at him, I found out that it was HIM! The one whom I've been wanting to know. Omfg. That lecture turned out to be the happiest ever during that semester. His shampoo smell was so heavy that day that I had the urge to stay closer him to sniff it. =X

I guess he was too shy to talk to me kinda something that he was so tactful with his elbow from not touching mine. I could sense that he kept turning his head to my side to see what I was doing.

Before that lecture ended, he slowly walked to his friends (who were just few seats away from my seat) And again, I could catch his eyes were on me!

Oh my goodness, tell me what should I do now? That's not love at first sight. That's something like a crush kind of something. And now I'm having study week that I won't be seeing him for a week until the final comes. Hope to see him soon! Wink

Sighs, what can I do now? I don't even know his name. Should I take the first move? Is he interested in me? Embarassed

T__T

ccdev · PJNet Junior Joined: Aug 04, 2009 Posts: 522

cool down, fiona. yeah, he probably noticed you noticing him too. but if you keep this up this attitude, one day you'll have the opportunity to talk to/with him and you'll be babbling like a drunk. n try to stop 'peeping' at someone or 'observing' that person. u do that only if youre a pervert or he's a lab rat. i cannot tell u what to do. only u with all the facts, can make the choice but i will provide certain options. pls consider...

anyway, with the stolen glances and 'accidental' bumps, both of you prob got the 'eye' for each other but nobody done anything. the good new is, u seem to be catching his eye with all the looking stuff, so u must be 'interesting' enuff for him, at this point anyway. guy's may be a bit shy, u know that. but interesting and cute, u got any competitors? if there are no competitors, play you cards right and you will get a chance to know him better. hopefully, that'll be a good thing. as a girl u may not want to use the direct approach, i guess. if you choose to, u can go ahead. just straight up walk up to him and declare your totally 'omfg mega sized crush' to him, tell him "life is too short" and kiss him and hope he''ll reciprocate, up to you if you want to.

but if u dont want to, then like i say play it cool first. he has already noticed you, so would you consider establishing come kind of physical proximity next? maybe get some friends or a group of y'all to the movies first. get a chance for a hi/bye, non 'heavy' light-talking time (do people still do that?).

or you wanna skip straight to the 'bumping'.i mean the "at times, we bumped into each other in the campus too." very "convenient" for him too, since he's clearly looking to 'bump' into you as well. possibly the last few time yall bump just say 'oh sorry' or just brief smile and walk away? maybe he's probably hoping that you'd say hi first, i dunno but u can just tell him hi. give him a question/statement - "some people say youre too shy to talk to me, is that true?" , or 'hi, are you even gonna tell me your name, you've bumped into so many times..." 'challenge' him a bit. now, depending on who is around, both of you could then chat a bit, because you already have an opening. if you do chat dont make it too long if you dont want to. make some excuse and go off. Talk to him like he's your cool male buddy, not the object of your mega sized crush. OR

after telling him that q/s, look him in the eye for just awhile, slight smile and then walk a way. you established a closer perimeter already. personally, i think you should talk to him, bump too many times already.

eh look, fionawee, i gotta go, sorry. but most importantly, dont have to show your mega crush to him. just treat him like you would a good 'male buddy', make him feel comfy what, bust his balls a bit if you have to (but in a non-hurtful way. guy prob like some kinda sport thing, bust his ass like when his fav football team loses etc). but subtlely flirt a bit with him, decently of course.you know how each person has a personal space? well, flirt with his personal space. when u talk to him, go closer, close but not that close, y'know? enuff to give him a whiff of your perfume, or of you (His shampoo smell was so heavy that day that I had the urge to stay closer him to sniff it. =X , terribly sexy statement. ) like when he is reading an assignment, go behind him, like looking at what he is reading and let him smell your hair a bit.why not, u smell good, right?

Give him the 'is she or isnt she' thing, since he's shy and a gentleman, so thoughtful with his elbows. hah, tell you this - it's because he's got the hots for you, that's why he was so tactful with his elbow. if a guy doesnt bother about the people around him, like his friends, his elbows would be at ease. but if a guy is feeling the hots but jitters for someone, but he cant do anything, then he has to consciously hold back his elbows, refrain himself from 'touching' you, which is actually what he wants to do. that is why you noticed his actions. plus 1 to you, no? if flirt already and feel comfy, move on to your fingers. light touches n all.'accidental' elbow collisions maybe?

really got to go. anyway, treat him like a 'male buddy' most times around people (for now, why not, he's an interesting guy what) but if got 'quiet' time, give some special attention to him, a lil smile, a quiet look before u leave, that kinda thing. If after all this the guy still to shy to make a move, even to say hi, maybe you got your signals wrong or he is not a guy.

either way, i think you got what u need to go on but could you not postpone whatever action u gonna take because your finals are coming? He will still be there after the finals, and patience is a a good trait to learn. bye!

mchong88 · PJNet Starter Joined: Jul 29, 2009 Posts: 39

sigh, i wanna be 18 again... Sad

VelvetSky · PJNet Starter Joined: Jun 20, 2007 Posts: 188

hmmm... miss my college life.... Crying or Very sad

FC888 · PJNet Starter Joined: Sep 13, 2009 Posts: 45

just smile and say "hi".. let him lead the rest of the introduction and conversation Smile

chubby · PJNet Newbie Joined: Jan 17, 2010 Posts: 13

ah i wanted to go back to my college days